I ran an anonymous survey a few weeks ago where I invited the husbands of the world to talk to me about their marriage. I intentionally asked a few kinds of questions:
- What do you wish your wife knew?
- What do you wish your wife would do differently regarding family?
- If you could change one thing about the sex in your marriage, what would it be?
The responses were overwhelmingly sweet.
A few hubbies were even so comfortable to leave their names, so I’ve attributed them where applicable. Over 60 husbands took the survey so I’ve combed through all the responses to bring you the ones that I thought were most revealing. Some responses have been edited for length or clarity.
I wish my wife would stop letting outside drama from her parents or friends get to her and focus more on how amazing our little family is.
Trust me when I say “I’ve got it” with the kids. I’ll figure it and make it work. I want to do dad things with the kids more often.
I want to feel like your hero, even if I’m just mowing the lawn or taking out the trash. Nothing motivates me more than that.
I wish my wife knew how much I really appreciate every moment she is part of my life. I wish she knew how I miss her when I work long hours. I wish she knew how adorable she is when she rolls over and grabs my arm in the middle of the night and how that warms my heart. I wish she knew that she keeps me sane and grounded when my worries and stressors test my patience. I wish she knew that without her, I would be lost adrift in an ocean of despair.
I wish my wife would stop telling my mother everything I do. I know I’m a grown man but getting scolded by mom still affects me.
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How pretty she really is…
I wish she would stop freaking out about any female that looks in my direction. I can’t control that. There is no other woman on the face of the Earth that could compete with what I’ve got at home. Why would I waste my time?
Be more understanding.
I wish she would have more faith in herself. She constantly doubts her own worth and the ring I put on her finger never seems to be enough to remind her that she is my entire world.
I wish she would calm down a bit. I love to make love, but a man can only handle so much!
Even though I know oral isn’t her most favorite thing to do, it’s important to me. I wish she’d realize that. I’m afraid to bring it up because I don’t want her to think I don’t love everything else we do.
Let me cook more often. Pretend to like the slop that I make. Feed it to the dog later.
I wish she would put the work away at night and so we can spend some time together after dinner. I like alone time as much as the next guy, but it’s lonely when it’s almost every night.
Kiss me, hug me, rub my back, touch me more. I need the physical connection.
Tell me what you need! Just tell me so I can have the chance to get it right. Sometimes I wish I were a mind reader.
I wish my wife knew how crazy it makes me (in a great way) when she gets all dressed up. She’s always beautiful to me but I love seeing her feel beautiful, it’s amazingly sexy.
In a world that teaches men to hide their feelings and toughen up, it’s refreshing to hear their uncensored thoughts. Husbands wish their wives knew a variety of things, but the overwhelming trend is that the husbands wish their wives knew how much they needed her love, trust, and affection.