Are You Ready to Change for Good?
I spent a few hours in my own head yesterday, contemplating the nature of change. Or, more accurately, the nature of change as it relates to my relationship with food.
I’ve been more self-indulgent than usual lately. Netflix binging on the couch instead of working out? Check. Desert five nights a week? Double check. Rationalizing why I deserve a soda today? Can do. Playing on social media instead of cleaning the house? Easy. Take a nap instead of getting some work finished? Done. Staying home in my yoga pants and being
a hermit unsociable instead of going out with friends to nurture my relationships. Yup, even that.
Don’t get me wrong; my default setting is self-indulgent and I’m ok with that. I love things that smell, sound, feel, look and taste good. I’m a sensualist.
The problem comes in when indulgence goes a little too far for too long. Then it becomes habit. It becomes normal. Herein lies the danger. Once a behavior has been normalized, it’s incredibly hard to change.
“We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers – but never blame yourself. It’s never your fault. But it’s always your fault, because if you wanted to change you’re the one who has got to change.”
Permanent change for the better only comes when one is completely fed up with their current circumstance. Similar to many alcoholics’ need to hit “rock bottom” before getting sober, I needed to come to this place in order to spur myself to go in a better direction.
I’m ready to make better choices again. I am ready to change for good. Nothing crazy or drastic, let’s just start with gentle adjustment. Healthier food swaps, more productive use of my time and actually putting in the effort.
If you can identify something in your life that you’d like to change for good, start with a bit of introspection. When our lives are filled with endless noise and distraction, it keeps us from delving into deep thought. Turn off the tv, shut down the computer and turn off the cell for an hour and just think. Go for a walk or a drive in silence and contemplate what area of your life needs an upgrade. It could be relationships, career, physical or intellectual or a combination.
During this period, it’s essential that you’re really, brutally honest with yourself. The second you think to blame someone else or rationalize something, you know you’ve found what you need to change for good.
So, what is it? I’d love to hear what area of your life you’re committing to change for good in the comments below or on our facebook page.
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